Intertwined thinking

Intimate places are places of nurture where our fundamental needs are heeded and cared for without fuss. […] the sense of home as a place where the sick and injured can recover under solicitous care.
(Yi-fu Tuan, Space and Place: The Perspective of Experience)

Hurt, either it’s physical or non-physical, cause damage to our selves, and as human being we’ll struggle to fix it in order to satisfy the need of security, stability, and freedom from fear (Maslow, 1943). It’s a normal desire for us to seek for someone, some place, or something to heal. This kind of place, person, or thing can be defined as intimate place, a place of nurture, or we may also call it ‘a home’.
But what is actually a place? How we distinguish this kind of place?

Place is a pause in movement. Animals, including human beings, pause at a locality because it satisfies certain biological needs. The pause makes it possible for a locality to become a center of felt value.
(Yi-fu Tuan, Space and Place: The Perspective of Experience)

Intimate place, or home, satisfies all the fundamental needs so that we don’t need to struggle, hide or defend ourselves. At this place, human becomes free from assertion and brave enough to be exposed to whatever surround him.

Intimate occasions are often those on which we become passive and allow ourselves to be vulnerable, exposed to the caress and sting of new experience.
(Yi-fu Tuan, Space and Place: The Perspective of Experience)

Vulnerable condition, then, allow our senses to connect with our surrounding. This connection will engage our whole being, and let the whole body ‘see’ what is unseen before. The unseen is something beautiful that we get lack of words to describe it. We aware of the quality of the unseen, but it’s very personal that other people may get confused when we try to get them into the frequency. At this moment, you’ve create another intimate place, a storage of deep memory.

Intimacy between persons does not require knowing the details of each other’s life; it glows in moments of true awareness and exchange. […] There are as many intimate places as there are occasion when human beings truly connect.
(Yi-fu Tuan, Space and Place: The Perspective of Experience)

In the real life, I get easily connected to my surroundings in idle time, especially on transit places like train. It gets me to contemplate whatever happened in my mind or in the real surrounding. These moments give me space to awe the beauty of everyday, and it is very relieving.
But there is no way I can dwell on train, or on my mom that apart miles away from here, whenever the need-of-security-stability-and-freedom-from-fear get obstruct to be satisfy. First, because transit place is not permanent and very occasional depending on the mood of surround. Second, there is no way I can obstruct my mother, by moaning about unimportant thing I create from my own prejudice about proper attention and care and blablabla, from being fair of taking care the whole family. Then what?
Then I realize that each time I create an intimate place by contemplating and awing on everyday, I’m not creating places on those contemplative objects. Those objects are only spectacles to let me see beyond those beauty that I’m actually awing Your kindness in letting me aware of those relieving beauty each time.

Permanence is an important element in the idea of place. Things and objects endure and are dependable in ways that human beings, with their biological weakness and shifting moods, do not endure and are not dependable. […] In the absence of the right people, things and places are quickly drained of meaning so their lastingness is an irritation rather than a comfort.
(Yi-fu Tuan, Space and Place: The Perspective of Experience)

Yap, I built an intimate place on You, a place of nurture. The One that endure, dependable, and the most important, permanent!

Then which of the favors of your Lord will ye deny?
(Ar-Rahman (55): 13)

Then why should I confused where to dwell? I’ve already found one 

 

–Al-Qur’an. Ar-Rahman (55): 13
–McLeod, Saul. 2007, Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. simplypsychology.org (accessed 2/23/2014 11.24 PM)
–Tuan, Yi-fu. 1977, “Intimate Experiences of Place.” Space and Place: The Perspective of Experience. Minneapolis: University of Minnesota. Pg. 137-141

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